Take Back Your Energy: What’s Really in Your Control?

Take Back Your Energy: What’s Really in Your Control?

Hello my friend,

How are you this fine day?

❔ I have a quick question for you

How much of your time and energy these days goes into worrying about things you can’t control?

It might be work or traffic or the wellbeing of loved ones. It might be stuff you see on the news or read on social media. It might be the things other people say or do.

Whatever it is, I can assure you, you are not the only one!

It’s something we all do—but what if I told you there’s a way to redirect that energy toward growth, action, and happiness?


🎯 The Circle of Influence 

In his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey introduces the Circle of Concern and Circle of Influence—a simple yet powerful framework for creating a more proactive, empowered mindset.


⚖ The Difference Between Proactive and Reactive

  • Proactive people focus their time and energy on what they can control and influence, taking ownership of their choices and actions.
  • Reactive people focus on things beyond their control, often falling into patterns of blame, frustration, and victimisation.

Covey’s insight reminds us that while we may not control every circumstance, we do have control over our reactions, choices, and the way we show up in the world.


⭕What’s in Your Circles?

The Circle of Concern and Circle of Influence help us identify where to focus:

  1. Circle of Concern: Includes everything you care about but can’t control (e.g., global events, other people’s actions and behaviour).
  2. Circle of Influence: Includes things you can impact but not fully control (e.g., relationships, work dynamics).
  3. Circle of Control: Includes what you can directly control (e.g., your thoughts, actions, mindset, attitude and habits).

Proactive people spend their energy in the Circle of Influence and Circle of Control, while reactive people get stuck in the Circle of Concern.


🌿 A Simple Shift for More Peace 

As you reflect on where your energy is going, challenge yourself to:

  • Identify Your Circles: Write down your worries, then categorise them into Concern, Influence, or Control.
    • Take Proactive Steps: Shift your energy toward actions you can take within your Circle of Influence.
    • Let Go of the Rest: Free yourself from the weight of what you can’t control—it’s a gift to yourself.


    🌟 Your Mindset, Your Choice 

    Focusing on what you can control and influence is a big step toward breaking free from stress and overwhelm. It’s a small shift that can lead to big changes in your personal growth, performance, and happiness.

    Take a moment right now to ask yourself:
    💡 Where am I spending my energy?
    💡 What’s one small change I can make today to align with my goals?

    By focusing on what you can control, you reclaim your power and create a ripple effect of positivity in your life.

    Have a wonderful week!

    Amy 🤟💜


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