How to kill self-doubt

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I just listened to an amazing podcast. It was so good that I had to keep pausing and re-listening to it so that I could really listen and digest what they were saying - I couldn't take notes fast enough!

I now have 9 pages of A4 filled with a goldmine of information and ideas, and I thought it might be nice to share my key takeaways with you.

So, let's get into it...

What is self-doubt?

Self-doubt is a mental state where a person feels uncertain or indecisive about beliefs, actions, or abilities. It is about lack and limitation and it can create a barrier to taking action due to fear of making mistakes or failing.

Self-doubt is a low energy/ low vibrational feeling. It depletes our energy and it does not serve us.

What is the cause of self-doubt?

We are not born doubting, we are trained into it!

It is a programme in our mind that tells us that we are not good enough and not worthy enough.

Why do we think that? 

Because we have radically accepted this wrong idea about ourselves!

Why did we radically accept this wrong idea? 

Because we have never been taught how to THINK - we have never been taught how our mental faculties work, we have never been taught how to accept and reject ideas.

And - the programme is programmed to defend its operating system!

This defective mental programming has an inbuilt mechanism to defend itself. When we attempt to do something new or different, it wants to keep us in our comfort zone where it thinks we are 'safe.'

What are the effects of self-doubt?

The effects of self-doubt are many; indecision, overthinking, imposter syndrome, people pleasing, feelings of worry, anxiety and fear, procrastination, low self esteem and thoughts that you are not worthy or not enough.

Confidence and doubt

People don't have a confidence issue, they have a doing issue!

The podcast host maintains that those who say that they have 'lost confidence' never had confidence to begin with! They were letting the result dictate if they were confident or not. 

How do you know this? Because, when the result changed, they changed their opinion of themselves.

Confidence is about DOING. It is built through deliberate practice and repetition. The more we repeat an action, the better we get.

Take driving as an example. In the beginning it feels hard, complicated and overwhelming. Over time and with practice, it becomes a programme that is ingrained in your mind. Eventually your automatic mind takes over and the action becomes effortless - THAT is confidence!

How do we kill self-doubt?

• Develop awareness so you know when doubt is creeping in. Keep constant guard at the door of your mind. When doubt tries to enter, immediately focus on the opposite idea and take action towards it.
• Make a decision that whatever your doubt is, you're going to do the opposite AND THEN DO IT!
• When doubts come in (which they will):
  • Take it as an indicator that you are not thinking and that you are letting a circumstance think for you.
  • Refuse to accept doubtful thoughts or feelings. Say 'cancel' or 'no entry' to the doubtful thoughts.
    
  • Decide that doubt is not something you want to create and therefore that you will not allocate any time or energy to it.
  • Immediately flip it and accept a 10x idea of the opposite. e.g. 'I am not good enough' becomes ' I am as worthy as I have ever been'
  • As Price Pritchett said in You Squared (a great little book!) 'if you're going to doubt anything, doubt your doubts.'
• Surround yourself with people you want to be like.
• Get a coach or a mentor - it is the biggest cheat code to success. A great coach or mentor will see yourself not as who you are but as who you can be. Interestingly, this is something I do not only with my coaching clients, but also with my Reiki clients!
  
• Tell yourself a different story.
  • Write a script about you at your very best and rewrite it every day for 30 days.
  • Eventually, with repetition, you will come to believe and expect it.
  • You will rewire yourself for confidence.
  • We have to see ourselves as confident before we become confident.

Further reading on this subject

• Psycho-cybernetics
  
• You Squared
• Mindset

If you'd like to listen to the podcast yourself, head over here.

Wishing you every success, always,

Amy 💜🤟

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